** Wednesday, March 09, 2005 __
Currently Feeling*
Phew~
Things had happened and I'm still here. I survived!
As for results, not my expectation. Very disappointed. But then again, it isn't important after all. A result is just an 'entry ticket' to some other institution. As long you had passed all is safe enough.
I read someone's nick in MSN. It says 'The process doesn't matters at all, what matters is the RESULT.' Nah. Untrue. I disagree with this. It's like cheating in the test and get good results and your results isn't yours at all. I think the process is the most important. Even your result isn't that good or bad, what matters is your hardwork during the process. You gain some confidence, gain knowledge, learnt something during the process that made you grow and englighten yourself. A result is a result. A result is just how well you have done, how much you have learn the past years but that doesn't mean result is the end of life. The end result of your life. ((: So guys, for those who didn't do well, just think of this. It's what sweat and hardwork matters. ((:
Okay. I've been deciding what course to choose and several problems arised. I'm sure I know what am I doing now. majority of my trainers, leaders and friends told me this 'Follow your heart'. As long it's your interest, go ahead. No courses's prospect have no future. Each one does. It depends how you make use of it to gain something. So I've decided on my decision. I has registered to the JAE and I'll be waiting for it. ((:
4th March 2005. Florence 21st birthday. Dear and I went to her place for celebration. Weets. She's getting prettier! Oh my god. After that, Dear and I went to grandlink and play pool. That woman at the counter is f-ed up. I understand how she feels because she said there's some CID spotcheck on the people and got caught? But that doesn't mean that she have to give such attitude to the customer. No matter what kind of circumstances happened onto you as a worker, there will always be a positive smile on your face to the customer all the time. We played till after midnight and took a cab to his place. Stayed overnight.
5th March 2005. Went out with Dear from his house to TM. We met Tiara to treat her Swensen lunch. Not bad. ((: Walked around CS and TM after that. My mood sort of F-ed up because of my tiredness. I went to take 168 to Woodlands, took a train to CCK, took a LRT to Senja. Yup. Met my friends there. Went to Senja Soka Centre, learnt the Superstar Dancesteps. The Post-Chingay Celebration cum FD-SD Graduation Day is a successful one. Very successful. We got our certificate of appreciation for chingay, graduation certificate for being a FD, photos and much more photos. So sweet. And Samantha actually made a chocolate cookie for us! So delicious. Yum. Hee! But then. My night got F-ed up again by mom and sis. So .. Oh well.
6th March 2005. Went to TBSC for Youth Culture Festival(YCF) training. I was late. I reached there around 10.30pm. But oh well they sort of start at that time. Ended around 10.30pm. We are told to fold paper cranes for charity. Yup. Went grandma place @ Jurong after that. Went to meet dee for taking my edited works at Boonlay MRT arond 9.45pm? Yup. Anyway it's 6th of march. Happy 2years 8months anniversary to me and dear. Hee! How fast!
Past few days I've been staying at home. Yup. Don't feel like going anywhere. I only looking forward that the weekend gonna reach soon. Heh.
Anyway I came across this when I was in MSN.com:
Five surprising reasons men are happy in a relationship
by Bonnie Yuill
Don't be fooled by the male ego. Men look for more in a relationship than an attractive women who will cook him a good meal and wash his clothes every once in a while. What he really needs is your admiration.
He needs to communicate with you
A lot of men need to be in a relationship more than women do. Surprising? Not really, when you think about it. Women usually have close relationships with their friends. They talk about health problems until they feel better. But men don't. As Helen Fielding's character, Bridget Jones, says, 'Women have emotions and men have football.' Men are competitive and so, in general, they rarely share their emotions or problems with each other, as they think it makes them look too weak. When he needs to open up and talk about his feelings, guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable side to? You!
He wants to be your hero
Knowing that he can make someone else happy makes him feel good inside, because he has the power to change things. And what bloke doesn't secretly want power of some sort? At least if he can't always be top dog at work, he can be a star at home. Instinctively, he aspires to be Spider-Man or Superman – to be your hero, to be able to make things right: to be appreciated, to be someone's knight in shining armour. So when you are disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible. What matters is that you are happy and then he's got one less thing to worry about. Strange but true.
He strives to make you happy
The number one reason men leave relationships is because they feel as though they can't meet their partner's needs. This makes them feel inadequate, and it makes them feel as though there's no way their partner can feel respect for them. For women, communication seems to be the top priority in keeping the relationship going – but, quite honestly, men don't understand this constant need to talk about things over and over.
For men, the relationship is a success if they feel respected and if they make their partner happy. This is why a new conquest is exactly that – he feels as though he is in charge – he is once again someone's knight in shining armour.
If you resent him because you feel overworked and under-appreciated, stop doing so much – you are probably destroying your relationship! He doesn't want to feel responsible for you rushing around, worn into the carpet, and most men really don't notice whether the housework has been done or not. What they want is respect and appreciation. 'All we really want from women,' a (male) friend recently told me, 'is for you to smile at us.' (And probably one other thing, if he thought about it for longer than a millisecond.)
Sex makes him feel loved
Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women. So the reverse is also true: no sex = no love, no approval, no acknowledgement. They get that same sad, unloved feeling that you get when you don't get flowers, your partner looks at other women or ignores you.
You are his (secret) reason for living
He needs you because you inspire him to do better – he has someone to do things for, goals to reach, a reason to go out and conquer the world. What's the point of being disgustingly rich and powerful if there's no one to share it with? What he needs is the gift of you.
Things had happened and I'm still here. I survived!
As for results, not my expectation. Very disappointed. But then again, it isn't important after all. A result is just an 'entry ticket' to some other institution. As long you had passed all is safe enough.
I read someone's nick in MSN. It says 'The process doesn't matters at all, what matters is the RESULT.' Nah. Untrue. I disagree with this. It's like cheating in the test and get good results and your results isn't yours at all. I think the process is the most important. Even your result isn't that good or bad, what matters is your hardwork during the process. You gain some confidence, gain knowledge, learnt something during the process that made you grow and englighten yourself. A result is a result. A result is just how well you have done, how much you have learn the past years but that doesn't mean result is the end of life. The end result of your life. ((: So guys, for those who didn't do well, just think of this. It's what sweat and hardwork matters. ((:
Okay. I've been deciding what course to choose and several problems arised. I'm sure I know what am I doing now. majority of my trainers, leaders and friends told me this 'Follow your heart'. As long it's your interest, go ahead. No courses's prospect have no future. Each one does. It depends how you make use of it to gain something. So I've decided on my decision. I has registered to the JAE and I'll be waiting for it. ((:
4th March 2005. Florence 21st birthday. Dear and I went to her place for celebration. Weets. She's getting prettier! Oh my god. After that, Dear and I went to grandlink and play pool. That woman at the counter is f-ed up. I understand how she feels because she said there's some CID spotcheck on the people and got caught? But that doesn't mean that she have to give such attitude to the customer. No matter what kind of circumstances happened onto you as a worker, there will always be a positive smile on your face to the customer all the time. We played till after midnight and took a cab to his place. Stayed overnight.
5th March 2005. Went out with Dear from his house to TM. We met Tiara to treat her Swensen lunch. Not bad. ((: Walked around CS and TM after that. My mood sort of F-ed up because of my tiredness. I went to take 168 to Woodlands, took a train to CCK, took a LRT to Senja. Yup. Met my friends there. Went to Senja Soka Centre, learnt the Superstar Dancesteps. The Post-Chingay Celebration cum FD-SD Graduation Day is a successful one. Very successful. We got our certificate of appreciation for chingay, graduation certificate for being a FD, photos and much more photos. So sweet. And Samantha actually made a chocolate cookie for us! So delicious. Yum. Hee! But then. My night got F-ed up again by mom and sis. So .. Oh well.
6th March 2005. Went to TBSC for Youth Culture Festival(YCF) training. I was late. I reached there around 10.30pm. But oh well they sort of start at that time. Ended around 10.30pm. We are told to fold paper cranes for charity. Yup. Went grandma place @ Jurong after that. Went to meet dee for taking my edited works at Boonlay MRT arond 9.45pm? Yup. Anyway it's 6th of march. Happy 2years 8months anniversary to me and dear. Hee! How fast!
Past few days I've been staying at home. Yup. Don't feel like going anywhere. I only looking forward that the weekend gonna reach soon. Heh.
Anyway I came across this when I was in MSN.com:
Five surprising reasons men are happy in a relationship
by Bonnie Yuill
Don't be fooled by the male ego. Men look for more in a relationship than an attractive women who will cook him a good meal and wash his clothes every once in a while. What he really needs is your admiration.
He needs to communicate with you
A lot of men need to be in a relationship more than women do. Surprising? Not really, when you think about it. Women usually have close relationships with their friends. They talk about health problems until they feel better. But men don't. As Helen Fielding's character, Bridget Jones, says, 'Women have emotions and men have football.' Men are competitive and so, in general, they rarely share their emotions or problems with each other, as they think it makes them look too weak. When he needs to open up and talk about his feelings, guess who he eventually shows his vulnerable side to? You!
He wants to be your hero
Knowing that he can make someone else happy makes him feel good inside, because he has the power to change things. And what bloke doesn't secretly want power of some sort? At least if he can't always be top dog at work, he can be a star at home. Instinctively, he aspires to be Spider-Man or Superman – to be your hero, to be able to make things right: to be appreciated, to be someone's knight in shining armour. So when you are disappointed or unhappy, he feels responsible. What matters is that you are happy and then he's got one less thing to worry about. Strange but true.
He strives to make you happy
The number one reason men leave relationships is because they feel as though they can't meet their partner's needs. This makes them feel inadequate, and it makes them feel as though there's no way their partner can feel respect for them. For women, communication seems to be the top priority in keeping the relationship going – but, quite honestly, men don't understand this constant need to talk about things over and over.
For men, the relationship is a success if they feel respected and if they make their partner happy. This is why a new conquest is exactly that – he feels as though he is in charge – he is once again someone's knight in shining armour.
If you resent him because you feel overworked and under-appreciated, stop doing so much – you are probably destroying your relationship! He doesn't want to feel responsible for you rushing around, worn into the carpet, and most men really don't notice whether the housework has been done or not. What they want is respect and appreciation. 'All we really want from women,' a (male) friend recently told me, 'is for you to smile at us.' (And probably one other thing, if he thought about it for longer than a millisecond.)
Sex makes him feel loved
Sex has the same effect on men as romance does on women. So the reverse is also true: no sex = no love, no approval, no acknowledgement. They get that same sad, unloved feeling that you get when you don't get flowers, your partner looks at other women or ignores you.
You are his (secret) reason for living
He needs you because you inspire him to do better – he has someone to do things for, goals to reach, a reason to go out and conquer the world. What's the point of being disgustingly rich and powerful if there's no one to share it with? What he needs is the gift of you.